For years I struggled with what other people thought of me, how I dressed, what I said and what I did were all subjected to scrutiny of what I thought other people thought. Fast forward to today and I can see how I tortured myself emotionally and sabotaged my future.
I now have removed this from my life and these are my reasons why you should do the same…
You will never please everyone
Whatever you do, someone isn’t going to be happy. You cannot please everyone. So don’t try. Try to do what is right and do the best you can. Pleasing people leads to marrying the wrong person, choosing the wrong career path and generally being unhappy. Don’t hurt people but at the same time you have make your own way or in a few years time you will resent where you have ended up.
Opinions are subjective
We know this is true. We can be wrong and so can other people. All our opinions are subjective, its nearly impossible to have an impartial view, no matter how hard we try, we bring all our emotions and past experience into every decision we make.
When you care what people think you will compromise on your future and decisions (compromise can have its place but..) I would rather pursue something I believe in and fail than do something to keep people happy.
Lots of people have defied opinions and won. Don’t ignore advice or opinions but reach a decision for yourself.
Sometimes you need to go against opinion to learn a valuable lesson to make you a better person. Sometimes you go against opinion and change the world.
Opinions can be loaded. Loaded with other peoples hopes, dreams and disappointments. Sure take advice but make your own decision.
You will not run from controversy
Despite what we see standing out or being embroiled in difficult thinks, taking risks or going public with something can be controversial. As humans we inherrently seek approval and respect. When we end up in controversy we receive questions and criticism. We want to be accepted but we shouldnt seek acceptance at any cost.
Look at all our notable people from history, the vast majority had to court controversy, go against ‘norms’ to do some incredible things.
Think Galileo, Newton, Jobs, Zuckerberg, Gates… you get my point.
If you are trying to do something difficult, you will have controversy. You have to set aside others opinions however tough they are and pursue your goal.